Talk about spot on. I’m definitely a Pisces.
Confession of The Weak: #1
Dare I say it?
I don’t like bringing my best guy friends’s girlfriend around my boyfriend because she’s tall, pretty, on the thinner side, and tends to wear provocative clothing. Chalk it up to jealousy or insecurities but I keep thinking she’ll make the moves on my boyfriend or that my boyfriend will just find her irresistibly attractive and charming.
I know men can be dogs too but I really just don’t trust women.
Do you know how to keep a woman happy? I mean truly happy. Keeping a woman happy is common sense stuff, but many men get this all wrong.
#1- Confidence is king
Confidence is more attractive to a woman than money or good looks. Think about it. How often do you see an ugly guy with a beautiful woman? It’s pretty common. To make your woman happy, be yourself and be confident. You are good enough for her regardless of your financial status or physical attributes.
#2- Focus on the little things
Women keep score differently than men. In a woman’s eyes, you earn points regardless of how big something you do is. Buying her an expensive diamond necklace earns you no more points than calling her just to say you love her. If you want to keep a woman happy, do little things for her consistently rather than doing a big thing every once in a while.
#3- She needs appreciation
More than anything in a relationship, a woman needs to feel appreciated to be happy. Appreciation is even more important than chocolate or love in a woman’s eyes. Let her know you value all the little things she does for you like doing your laundry, fixing dinner, or leaving you cute notes.
#4- Give her the attention she deserves
When you’re with her, avoid staring at other women. Women constantly compare themselves to other women, and when you stare at other women when she’s around, you will make her feel as though she’s not good enough. You’re a man and you’re going to look. It’s part of your core being, but be conscious of it when she’s around and give her your full attention if you want to keep her happy.
#5- Laughter will win her heart
If you want to know how to keep a woman happy, make her laugh. Just because you’re a man doesn’t mean you can’t be cute, silly, or even a little childish if it brings a smile to her face. You know the things that make her laugh so use them.
#6- Do something she loves even if you don’t
Maybe your girlfriend likes to ski or dance and you don’t. Make an effort to go with her sometimes even if you don’t enjoy it that much. Do it for her because you love her. This doesn’t mean you have to do everything she loves all the time, but show an interest in her passions. She’ll love you for it.
#7- Don’t get sloppy
Guys have a tendency to put a lot of effort into getting the girl, but once they have her they get sloppy. They stop doing the little things. They stop caring about their appearance. They stop appreciating her and start taking her for granted. If you want to keep a woman happy, don’t get sloppy. You can lose her in an instant.
#8- Get to know her family and friends
Women for the most part are social creatures. They rely on their friends and family to validate the choices they make in life. They want their boyfriends and husbands to have a relationship with their family and friends. Learning how to keep a woman happy will require making an effort to show an interest in your girl’s sphere of influence.
#9- Be considerate of her feelings
Women are more emotional than men. It’s not their fault. It just comes with being a woman. When you show her you understand this and are sensitive to her moods and don’t get upset or over-react, she’ll do everything she can to keep you.
#10- Spice it up
It’s natural for a relationship to lose some of its excitement over time. However, if you feel things getting stale, try something new. maybe taking a class together to learn how to dance or do yoga. Do something neither of you have ever done, and do it together.
I wish he didn’t smoke so I didn’t feel as if we were moving towards a dead end.
Everything I Write, I Write For You
She kneels on the futon, which sits outstretched in the middle of the living room. It She crawls closer to the edge to grab his face.
“Hey…” She looks right into his eyes, “whatever it is we’re going to get through it. We are going to get through whatever it is. I know you think you’re alone on this but you’re not. I know you think this is your problem, and your problem alone but it’s not. I’m here for you. You’re the only reason I’m here and I’ll be damned if I don’t do everything it takes to help you get where you need to be…”
She takes a deep breath, bites her bottom lip. Takes an extra minute just to make sure he’s listening.
“Where you want to be. So I’m in this. We’re in this together. And we’re going to be until you no longer want me. I’m not leaving til you make me. Til you can say it and mean it. We’re in this baby. You and me. That’s just the only way I’ll let it be. So we’ll get through this. If you believe in me, just believe we’ll get through this.”
Don’t be the idiot who says it first. You’ll regret even thinking it.
On Boyfriends: A Letter to Young Girls
Dear 10-17 year old Me,
There’s a lot I have to tell you. I hope you’re comfortable because this might be a bit extensive and long winded (I apologize in advance). At 10, this might be a bit much to talk about but this conversation needs to happen so I figured better now than never. We need to talk about boys. Yes, boys (I know you don’t think they have cooties anymore with the way you’re crushing!) See, I want you to not get caught up on the small things… like whether or not he’s dark haired and green eyed or speaks Spanish or dresses like a walking Abercrombie ad. You want someone who’s going to add to what you already have/are and I’ll tell you now: you love what’s unconventional, you don’t always (or rarely ever) speak Spanish and you’re so far from an Abercrombie ad that both Abercombie & Fitch are rolling around in their graves. It’s just not you. Categories are not. You’re not one for boxes, so your boyfriends shouldn’t fit into one.
It’s okay if he’s not built like Brad Pitt. He’s real and far less of an asshole. It’s fine if he’s younger or the color of Taye Diggs, because there’s more to him than age & race. He’s not going to be perfect (please please please PLEASE remember he’s NOT going to be perfect!) and you’re bound to find things that irk you and that you wish he didn’t do. There are things he dislikes about you too, but he’ll still be in it for the long haul if you’ll join him.
He won’t always know the right thing to say and sometimes he won’t even know you’re upset but he’ll care to fix it. You’ll have good days when you can spend hours on end around each other, in silence, and still be content. Many times you’ll be on the same page (others you’ll be chapters apart) but for whatever reason he’ll be good for (and to) you. You’ll know if he’s not. So listen to your intuition. Don’t get dragged into something that makes you uncomfortable and don’t do anything you don’t want to (that includes the birds and the bees, and overstepping privacy). Say no when you need to. But don’t be afraid to say yes. Don’t allow boys to take advantage, don’t look to them for validation. Not everything they say will be true. They will destroy friendships or make you feel like meat. Others will want nothing more than to be platonic but for those in betweens don’t be afraid to give.
Don’t forget: The in betweens are the best. Those are the ones who want to be friends while also taking the next step and they’ll drive you mad with their crooked smile or so-not-green-but-I-am-still-loving-your-brown-eyes-and-could-stare-into-them-all-night eyes. Their laugh will brighten up starless nights and just sitting by them will make you feel safe. You’ll learn to hate sleeping alone so much so that even your stuffed Mickey will not replace the boy you love to hold. Sometimes, their pain will become your pain and you’ll worry yourself sick trying to figure out how to fix it. Remember to give him space and let him fix some things himself. And don’t get too mad when you find all the Heroes in your story or Romeos of your songs resemble him, good things tend to pop up in everything you do.
But if there’s one thing you take away about boys and relationships and love, let it be this: You are absolutely worth it.
“I never thought that you would be the one to hold my heart/ But you came around and you knocked me off the ground from the start/ You put your arms around me/ And I believe that it’s easier for you to let me go/ You put your arms around me and I’m home”“Arms” - Christina Perri
Just something I found while looking through some old posts:
*Sets cup of ice cold pink lemonade before you*
Alright kid, you and me have to talk. Try the lemonade, it’s a family recipe. Get comfortable if you have to we might be here a while.
…No, no we’re not going to talk about the birds and the bees again… That was definitely as awkward for me…